Attraction can start a conversation, but everyday priorities decide whether it feels possible to keep having one. This test separates the qualities you value in a partner so you can see which ones shape your idea of a good fit.
Take the free Partner Priorities Test. It contains 30 original questions across 6 separate areas. The questionnaire and basic information are free to read.
Preferences with more than one dimension
This is not a compatibility prediction and it does not rank people. It is a reflection on what you personally look for when imagining a good partnership. The questions include both emotional and practical priorities, because those often meet in ordinary decisions.
What the six areas bring into view
Emotional safety asks whether honesty and repair feel important. Shared direction covers goals and values. Daily warmth turns attention to small acts of care. Mutual space considers autonomy and privacy. Reliability looks at follow-through, while growth together asks how a couple responds when life changes.
Use the result as a conversation starter
Compare the first two scores, then look at the answers that made them close. A preference can be firm without being a rule for every person. Some qualities are essential to you; others may depend on timing, circumstances or how both people handle a difference.
Inside your profile
Emotional Safety
This area captures how much you value honest communication, respect during disagreement and a sense that vulnerable thoughts can be shared without being used as leverage.
Shared Direction
This score reflects the importance you place on aligned values, compatible plans and making major decisions with a sense of shared purpose.
Everyday Warmth
This area measures the weight you give to affection, attention and the small signs that someone is glad to share ordinary time with you.
Mutual Space
This score reflects your preference for personal autonomy, independent friendships and boundaries that let both people remain whole individuals.
Reliability in Practice
This area captures the importance of keeping promises, being consistent and handling practical responsibilities with care.
Growing Together
This score reflects openness to learning from friction, updating shared routines and adapting when either person changes.
How to answer
Think about what you would value in a relationship, not what you think a perfect partner is expected to say. Preferences can depend on context, so choose the response closest to your actual priorities.
Allow about 4-6 minutes. Five response options let you show whether a statement fits strongly, somewhat or only in part.
How to read the scores
Each area is scored separately. The values show how closely your answers align with the statements in that area; they are not a competition between the areas and they do not add up to 100. The full report shows the response trail behind each score.
What the optional analysis adds
The free result gives you a basic starting point. The optional detailed analysis opens all 6 area scores, individualized interpretations matched to those scores and a review of every saved answer. It also includes reflection prompts and the companion e-book What Matters Between Us: A Guide to Partner Priorities.
The additional analysis is unlocked with one payment. You can complete the test and read the basic information before deciding whether you want the report.
Before you begin
Does this predict who I will date?
No. It reflects the qualities you say matter to you; it does not predict a future partner or relationship.
Can two priorities both be important?
Yes. The scores are separate, so several areas can matter at once.
What is free?
The questionnaire and basic result are free. The individual analysis is optional.
